So many of us were shaped by conditional belonging. Be good. Be quiet. Be grateful. Be less. Pain was inconvenient. Anger was unattractive. Need was weakness. So we split ourselves. Public woman. Private ache. Competent exterior. Silent interior.
When self help doesn’t help me, maybe it’s because I was never broken. Maybe I was trained not to trust myself. And maybe you were too.
There are real things blocking equity in this country-structural, emotional, patriarchy. This is Part 2 of my conversation with Maya Nelson. Join us.
There’s a version of change that feels busy and responsible. It fills calendars and looks good on LinkedIn. It lets us feel virtuous without feeling afraid. It’s not transformation. It’s rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic.